Signs that love is in the air
Most of us aspire to developing a loving relationship and when we find someone who shows potential, we naturally want to establish if our apprentice-like significant other feels the same way as we do.
But how can we gain access to their intentions without appearing like we’re the type to have already booked the church for the wedding the moment things start look positive? In other words, how do we find out without asking. What are the signs ,tricks & pitfalls and to make it worth our while? Read on and learn how to find out if love is in the air…
Establishing if it is worth the effort
The type of date you already have on your arm will heavily determine whether you should give cupid a swift kick up the ass or indeed, walk away. If you are dating a married man, you might as well admit defeat right now as the only ring you’re likely to get is a sore one. No, alas married types might tell you they love you but they just have to get over this little problem of having a wife. Harsh advice that’s true, but let’s face it, if you think there is any future in that kind of relationship you are clearly mad and need to undergo urgent treatment for Mills and Boom Syndrome.
You might be considering whether your casual sex buddy is showing any love potential but to be brutally honest, if you actually have a casual sex buddy, you’ve kind of established that you’re just in it for the sex and there’s pretty much no going back from that point once his mental picture of you is a vagina on demand. Safe bets you might want to consider include people you’ve been on a date with at least 6 times and who have not asked if you have a younger older sister (or brother – in which case, you should move on quickly unless you need someone to redecorate your house). Being honest with yourself about the type of person you are seeing will save you more hassle than you know.
What to look out for
There are a number of signs that love is in the air and paying a little attention during your time together will help you ascertain if you are onto a winner or simply barking up the wrong tree.
More obvious signs include people who buy you expensive gifts and are extremely flash with their cash. It’s highly likely these types will be in it for one thing – sex. Thoughtful gifts such as wine and chocolate and more chocolate can show a romantic tendency on their part so try not to put your date off by scoffing the lot in one go. The other side to this sweet trip could easily be that your quest is actually a ‘Feeder’ and has already started planning how to reinforce your bed when you’ve reached ideal ‘plumpdom’. Monitor how much he tries to feed you or face life as Gilbert Grape’s mother with a daily thigh polishing. Surprise trips are also a great indicator of growing affection, especially transatlantic ones and to be honest, any trip is better than your date producing two dodgy -looking tabs of acid.
We should also make it clear that if your date has starting passing wind or seems to feel at ease picking their nose in your company, you should walk away right now. That type of sign is only acceptable if it comes from your dog.
How to ask without actually asking
Remembering to be subtle will go a long way in helping you acquire the information you require and you should avoid actually asking a direct question to establish love levels. Instead, focus your efforts on getting a positive reaction. By that, we refer to telling him about the other men in your life to gage his reaction and not, asking him what he thinks of a threesome. If he shows signs of mild jealously then it’s likely he’s pretty hooked. If he starts throwing chairs around, escape via the nearest available exit.
If he starts asking for their numbers he’s probably gay so thank him kindly and milk him for the latest beauty tips before sending him on his way before he steals your copy of Hello magazine.
Secrets and lies
Don’t be fooled into thinking this quest for love affirmation is going to be easy , for upon that road ahead lie a few wrong turns. False positives, things that look like they are the best thing since sliced bread lurk everywhere. Consider the man who displays every sign he’s in love, reacts positively and buys you just the right amount of chocolate. If might appear that this man loves you but watch out! A man who gives you everything you could wish for within the first few weeks of seeing each other may have got your details from your sex buddy. Or worse still, your sex buddy’s dad. Use your instinct and if you find yourself doing all the work and getting very little back, accept that your quest of love might be better targeted in another direction.
Going for gold
Of course, knowing if you are actually in love yourself does help. Well quite a lot actually so give some thought to the aforementioned false negatives - do any of them apply to you? Are you stringing anyone along?
Now there’s a thought.
