Profile description
Now to the important bit – your written profile. If you were applying for a new job you would undoubtedly take care to articulate what your strengths and skills were, so why not apply this formula to your online profile? In the same way a potential employer looks at your CV, a potential date will do exactly the same. Writing your profile simply stating what just your strengths are does not have the same impact as highlighting your strengths by giving examples and backing it up with other facts. Have a look at this example profile sentence:
“I am an intelligent, thoughtful & inquisitive person and I have a caring but funny side”
Take a look at the sentence – do you see the statements “I am….I have”? Making statements without references or back-up makes your profile appear over confident and a little bit pushy.
Now read the improved version!
“ I consider myself to be a thoughtful person who takes an active interest in what others are doing around me. My friends tell me I have a great sense of humour especially when they are sometimes a worse for wear and I am the one who manages to get everyone home in one piece!”
By introducing external opinions, (“My friends tell me” ) you are backing up your statements while retaining some modesty and at the same time, giving an example of your humor and caring side by managing to get your slightly drunken friends home safe and sound. By using the phrase ‘ I consider myself’ you are leaving room for opinion and it makes you appear more approachable.
If you are stuck about which strengths to put down, plan a night in with a couple of your friends and ask everyone to write down examples of how yours and your friend’ s strengths have been put into practice. As well as showing a bit of appreciation of one another, you get a rare glimpse of how others perceive you and while generating a bit of interesting content that you can add to your profile.
Remember! You are making yourself attractive to the reader – your photo has already gained their attention so now is the time to back up that mental image and show the reader what makes you the right choice!
Keep to the facts
You should also keep to the facts – don’t say you like outdoor sports when in fact you are referring to the time you played crazy golf at Butlins when you were ten. Potential suitors are looking for people who have similar interests to their own and you’ll come a cropper if your date suggests abseiling down the nearest building! Instead, write about what you are willing to do – You don’t have to make statements about wanting to be the next Zola Bud but adding a line such as ‘ While I’m not the most sporty person on the planet, I am willing to try new and different things’ .
Teasing
Draw people to your profile by stating what you find interesting but again, say why. Give examples so the reader can create a mental picture of you doing your stuff. Use your own interests as a springboard to other new things that you might like to experience and state this – it gives the reader a chance to mentally put themselves in a position of power and is a key attraction tactic. Nothing makes a man happier than having the chance to demonstrate his knowledge in front of a new girlfriend and you might end up having a bit of fun and learning something new at the same time. Don’t be afraid to introduce your opinion (although keep it light!) - be brave, state what you believe in but try to support it with some interesting background information that presents you in a good light. By courting opinion, you can generate many opportunities for comment which in turn, boost the number of people contacting you. Remember, it’s a numbers game so you want as many opportunities as you can generate.
So there you have it! A quick rundown on how you can improve your online dating website profile and in turn, increase the number of opportunities of meeting someone new (and interesting!). It doesn’t take much effort and with a bit of care and some creative input, you will ensure you attract the type of suitor you are paying for!
Have you made any changes to your profile that have brought some success? If so, why not tell us about it by adding your comments!
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