Think you are great dater? Why not check our list of Dating bad pointers and see how you compare? Knowing what bad dating habits to avoid will save you a lot of time, a lot of dignity and above all – your reputation.
The old ex story – God, this a real downer during a date! Who wants to know about your ex during a date? The moment you start talking about past relationships you might as well pull out a tick list and get your date to fill it in. Your date will immediately start to think that you are comparing them to your past dates as this is a major confidence saboteur. Besides boring your date with your tales of woe, talking about your old relationships gives your date the impression that you are not someone who easily lets go and you have all the early warning signs of a bunny boiler.
Punctuality – You’ve made an appointment at a given time and place and unless you’ve been run over by a bus, turn up on time. Turning up late and using the excuse of ‘a ladies prerogative’ only presents a bad image and belongs in the Victorian lady book of dating habits. If you know you are going to be hideously late, call your date and apologise in advance and you’ll end up looking much better in the long run.
Body Language – Use of incorrect body language such as crossed arms or legs crossed away from your date can indicate to your date that you are not that interested. Poor eye contact also tells your date that you are not interested in what they are telling you or that you may have a squint. Avoid putting your handbag on your lap in front of you as unless your date turns out to be a designer from Chloe, you’ll be hiding your groin region and you’ll risk looking like Dick Emery.
Big fish – Telling a few porky-pies is a sure way to come unstuck with your date. As well as appearing boastful and ridiculous, you will undoubtedly forget what you’ve said and slip up on the next date giving the impression that you are willing to try and impress at any cost. Never try to impress your date with fake tales as one day you may well have to prove them. If you’ve lied about being a glamour model and he sees you are wearing your Bridget-Jones-esq knickers when undressing for bed he’ll begin to contemplate if actually you modelled for ‘Reader’s wives’ instead.
Personal space – Some people are simply not aware of personal space and paw their date beyond belief. Ok so you are on a date and maybe you will/might end up in bed together eventually but you are not there yet. Sitting too close & touching your date constantly can make you look over-keen and to be honest, a bit cheap. Men like the chase and if you’re going to rough-up your date or sit in their lap within the first few minutes then you’re giving your date cart blanch to treat you as the trollop you are imitating.
Too much talk – Conversation can be sweet but if you talk too much there’s a good chance that you’ll bore the pants of your date. Too much talking can make you look like you are nervous which, while not a bad thing, risks presenting your date with a bit too much information before they need it.
Getting too drunk – An obvious one and a habit that will surely send out the wrong message – especially if you blurt out too muchinformation after downing the best part of a bottle of wine. Unless you have the liver of an Ox, drink water between alcoholic drinks to ensure you remain sober and keep your knickers well and truly on.
Mobiles – placing your mobile on the table during a date sends out a very clear message to your date and that is ‘While I’m here with you, I’m not going to miss any chance of something better happening on my mobile’ - turn the sound down, put it away and only check it (if you really must) when your date has nipped to loo.
Bringing along your friend – Bringing along a friend on your date indicates only one thing to a man. Threesome. Unless you are willing to come up with the goods, leave your friend at home or risk being jilted because your date fancies your friend and not you.
Now you have an idea of dating bad you might want to make some changes to your dating habits. While we cannot guarantee you’ll live happily ever after when absorbing these tips, you will at the very least give a positive impression on the journey and you never know, your date might even want to come back for more!
Looking for some good dating habits? Read Dating Good and you’ll be right as rain in no time!
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